The political campaign here is a bit strange. While F! denounces inequalities and proposes measures, the Socialdemocratic party, now in power with the collaboration of the Left and the Green parties, keeps surprisingly silent. They prefer not to talk about equality.
The alliance of the parties on the right wing is talking about measures to increase the ‘free choice’ of families. Just four days ago they suggested a a money payment for people who choose not to use day care centers. Christian democratic and Moderate parties also pretend to eliminate the non-transferable parental leave in order to go back to the ‘free choice’ as before 1995. This is the issue: ‘free choice of families’.
Why are they so worried about that? It reminds me of the old idea that domestic violence and rape within marriage were ‘private issues.’ You did not have free choice then to get divorce or to have an abortion. Women could do nothing without husband’s permission. They could not even go away. Feminists shouted that ‘personal is public.’ Right to divorce and equality in the civil code were achieved. Women got right to protection against their husband’s violence. They could use birth control pills and have an abortion, although in very restricted circumstances. And they said that we were already ‘equal in the eyes of the law.’
So, now, they say "families are the ones making decisions in harmony". Empirical research shows that harmony is the exception, not the general rule. Power is primarily in men’s hands, but all this does not seem to matter much. The important fact, instead, is that the legend goes that women determine the choice. Women do most of the housework because they love it. Women prefer to work part-time because they love children. They take most of the parental leaves because they love to be at home.
So, what is what sociology has to say? If women like all that, since they are doing it, why are feminists jumping in with all their absurd theories?
The question that comes to my mind is, why men don’t? Don’t they like it? I cannot see them trying to get a part-time job, staying at home with children when they are sick. What happens? Are they more generous to sacrifice in favor of women?
It sounds to me as a very weird joint decision where women always do what is good for the family and men what is good for themselves. And you can also see that in the political movement. If they sacrifice so much, I wonder why there is no political movement in favor of parental leave for men, to satisfy their desire to stay at home and see their children grow.
The truth is that only women are the ones fighting for individualization of parental leave, non-transferable parental leaves, why?















